The couple join other men in the UK who have gotten pregnant after transitioning.
The couple aren't the first to welcome a child after transitioning from female, but they shared their story with the Daily Mirror. Reuben and Jay opened up about their path and all that it took to be able to hold their baby in their arms. Reuben was the one who was pregnant, through a sperm donor who is a trans woman. His partner, Jay, was by his side along the way. Jay is nonbinary and doesn't identify as either male or female.
Reuben says he finally feels complete after welcoming his baby.
Reuben was able to carry the pregnancy and give birth successfully. Their baby, Jamie, was born three months ago. “It’s taken six years to get this far, but now we have a baby in our arms and that was the end goal. I finally feel complete," Reuben told the publication. “It wasn’t that I was desperate to have the birthing experience or pregnancy experience, but I wanted a child and I had the facility to do it."
Becoming parents has been years in the making for them.
The road to parenthood has certainly been long and winding. Reuben shared that he began taking male hormones to start his journey of living as a man in 2007. The hormones gave him a beard, deeper voice, and masculine features. Reuben realized he wanted to have a child of his own, so he spoke to a trans doctor, who told him that it was possible since he still had a uterus and ovaries.
The pair got their wish!
“The first round didn’t work. They gave me a fertility injection and I released too many eggs. We couldn’t go through with that attempt as we could have ended up with six children! Deflated, we became convinced it wasn’t going to work," he shared. “We tried a second time and the earliest point I could test was on my birthday. We’d been on edge for weeks. I did the test, ignored it and went to brush my teeth. Suddenly Jay was shouting me into the room and telling me to look--it was a positive result.”
He welcomed the baby by C-section three weeks after his due date, and aside from some negative reactions from people, he had a pleasant pregnancy. The couple is open to expanding their family even more in the future, with Jay also considering being the one to carry the baby this time around.