I can't tell you the number of times I've had arguments with my mom and each time it turned out she was right. As annoying as that may be I have to admit that it has also molded me into the woman I am today (in a good way). In fact, the other day I found myself uttering words I never thought I would say.
That's when I realized I was becoming my mother!
I realize that for some moms, the glaring judgements and unsolicited advice starts before the baby is even born, but I honestly never had to deal with any of that when I was pregnant. However, in the year since my son's birth people--both strangers and good friends (don't worry I'm not holding it against you)--have said some pretty crazy things to me.
I'm not one to care much about people's opinions about my choices, so it generally doesn't bother me, but sometimes I can't help but throw out a side-eye. I mean, would anyone have dared criticize where I choose to live before my son was born? I think not. Here are five of the most ridiculous things people have said to me since I became a mom:Continue Reading >
By the time I was 26, my husband and I had already been married five years, the last two of which he had often expressed his readiness to start a family. Being a couple of years younger and a bit more practical, I thought we should wait. I wasn't quite ready emotionally, and I definitely didn't think we were ready financially. But shortly before I hit that 26th birthday, baby fever hit hard.
I'd really like to be able to think of myself as a young, hip mamá. Though in saying that I feel kind of not young and not hip. Nevertheless, I'd probably get a decent ranking on the cool scale. But, looking back to the me of two or three years ago, a lot has changed. Four major--albeit shallow--things come to mind.
Here's how my little guy has changed me:Continue Reading >
When my son was born I realized that what they said was true: As a mom--and a super protective mamá Latina at that--I would probably do ANYTHING for my little guy. But these moms in Spain took this "anything" to a whole other level when they posed nude in order to raise money to get their kids' school a new bus.
Now is that dedication or what?
¿Por qué será que los latinos tenemos tantos temas tabúes entre nosotros mismos --desde hablar sobre la homosexualidad en nuestras familias hasta las relaciones sexuales antes del matrimonio--? No querer abordar temas tan importantes como estos, puede afectar a nuestras familias en muchos niveles y dar como resultado, que nuestros hijos nunca conozcan algunas verdades y realidades. Como comenta nuestra editora Johanna Torres, a veces como madres tenemos que forzarnos a discutir temas difíciles "para que las cosas no se queden tan estáticas". Hablamos abiertamente sobre todo esto y más en este capítulo de ¡Oye!
I hate to admit it, but I have a foul mouth and it's something I've really had to work on, the older my kids get. I only speak to my children in Spanish, but my bad words come out in English, Spanish or Spanglish. But because deep down inside I know none of it is right and I hate telling them not to do something and then turn around and do just that, I've cleaned up my act A LOT. These days, when they're around and I feel a bad word creeping up, I'll make sure to change into gibberish--a nonesense word that means nothing and usually makes them laugh if they're listening.
So I was mortified when I watched a clip from Bristol Palin's--Sarah Palin's infamous daughter--reality show Life's a Tripp in which her son, Tripp, allegedly calls her aunt a "faggot."
Motherhood does appear to be inching later in life for more and more women these days. And there are many personal reasons for this choice. For some though, it's the opposite as they're worried about becoming late mothers and its possible consequences. What was/is your choice? That and more in this episode of ¡Oye!Continue Reading >
Moms, have you ever wished there was some sort of device that could prevent your kid from giving into sexual temptation? Your prayers have been answered – meet the Purity Ring 3000! It might look like an ordinary piece of jewelry but it does oh so much more!
As you can see in the "commercial" below, the Purity Ring 3000 is designed specifically to force your children into abstinence. How? When the ring detects the smell of pheromones (a chemical factor released when attraction levels spike), it releases its own smell –a gross one that immediately causes all those around the offending teen, including any cute guys or girls, to run away and take cover. If their body experiences an increase in heart rate due to desire, a disco ball-like strobe light and ear-piercing alarm sets off in response.
Ok baby, let's have a little talk. We will have hundreds of these moments, where I tell you something you need to know and you may (hopefully) choose to listen to me--or not. Today, I'm going to lay down some wisdom about Mother's Day.
See, for me this will be my first real Mother's Day. Yes, when I was pregnant with you, your father very sweetly bought me gifts and celebrated for me--which was weird for me because I didn't feel like a mom yet. Then last year, you were like, 9 months old and still hadn't slept through the night and were suffering from reflux and ear infections. I seem to have that mommy-amnesia that keeps me from remembering horrible times because I really can't recall how the occasion was marked, which is fine because YOU couldn't really do anything for me for Mother's Day yet anyway.
This year, however, you are almost 2 years old and there are some things it would be great if YOU could do to help me celebrate this day:Continue Reading >