Sex after having babies is difficult at best. Mostly it turns grown adults into teenagers. We find ourselves sneaking around like we don't pay the mortgage. The little people run the joint. After 9 years of parenthood, the Big Guy and I have become sort of sex ninjas. We co-slept for years, and even then our lovemaking was not put on life support. We simply employed military-like tactics to get the deed done in other parts of the house. They say necessity is the mother of ingenuity and boy, is that true.
But children don't have to kill intimacy, you just have to get creative and use your imagination and the rest of the house. Honestly, I think all the sneaking around has added some spice. Sure, we may not be afforded the luxury of rolling over every night and having missionary sex but don't underestimate the power of playing the ultimate game of hide and seek… from your kids.
If I had a dollar for every man who ever lied to me, I'd be a very rich woman. But, really, who even has time to track all of those guys down? It seems a lot easier to just track down the one who's told me the biggest lie, and sue the shorts off of him!
Female pleasure is a mystery and will continue to be, as long as our secret garden remains hidden. Kidding! We are luckily when it comes to sex because we are not as straightforward as men. Masturbation is quite simple for guys, all they need is some lubricant and their hand. For us, masturbation is always different and varies with our mood. It's all about the clitoris and how it gets stimulated.
Masturbation is good for your sexual and mental health. These are some of the reasons why you should masturbate more often.
Let's talk about good old fashioned phone sex shall we? Do people even have it anymore? I know people get their kink on over the computer or send each other sexts or have X-rated FaceTime or Skype sessions with each other, but does anyone still have good old fashioned phones sex where it's just you, your lover, your phones and you use your voice and words to get it on when you can't be in the same place together?
I'm all for old fashioned phone sex because it's safe, there's no visual evidence of it after the fact and why the heck not? But wait, before you go and heat up your phone line, there are certain things you should NEVER do when having phone sex.
When was the last time you walked into an actual store to buy a sex toy? Okay, you don't have to tell me, but answer the question for yourself. Yesterday? A year ago? Never. Well, I would like to encourage you to do some no-shame sex toy shopping, if sex toys are your thing or if you are curious. Buying sex toys should not be something that you ever feel shame over, okay? No, really, I mean it. I'm not saying you need to broadcast it all over the place like set your work email to automatically reply with Out of the office: gone shopping for sex toys, but you know what I mean.
And I know you KNOW you shouldn't feel embarrassed, but I bet there is one or a million of you out there that still feel embarrassed. No worries, I've got some tips for shame-free sex toy shopping.
Sex doesn't just happen or get better all by itself. You need to identify what's going wrong first, before you can even try to make it right. What's killing your sex life? If you just roll over and lie there limply counting the cobwebs on the ceiling when you're having sex, or you can't wait for it to be over while your partner is huffing and puffing away during intercourse, you NEED to read this article to rekindle the fire in the bedroom.
Imagine having an intimate time with your boyfriend only to later realize that he's been secretly filming your sex sessions and posting them online! An NBC News web producer received the title of Biggest Jerk Ever when his 29-year-old girlfriend discovered naughty clips on his computer and that he had posted them onto a porn site.
I'm always hearing about couples splitting up due to lack of sex in the relationship. But have you ever heard of people breaking up because they're having too much sex? Well it turns out too much sex isn't always a good thing. In fact, one man recently divorced his wife because she wanted sex all day, every day! But what's wrong with being hot and heavy?
We have all had a moment in time when we have heard the most ridiculous myth about Latinas and sex. Yes, we were all born to be hot Latin-lovers ready to spice it up underneath the sheets. Not exactly. Actually, not even close. These dumb sex myths about Latinas make us roll our eyes and sigh.
Toni Braxton rocked my world when she revealed she has a thing for Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson's feet. Of all the body parts to choose from on that man, she choose his feet? Personally, I would have gone with his arms or his chest or his back or his…well, you get the point. But it turns out Toni has a thing for all men's feet (so long as they're not gross, hobbit feet). Toni's foot fetish revelation got me thinking about other celebs' fetishes—specifically Latino celebrities' fetishes.