7 Worst things about being a stay at home mom

baby getting diaper changeMany years before having a child or even being sure that I would ever have a child, I was pretty sure that I would never be a stay at home mom. Part of it was because I was raised by a single mom and she had no choice but to work, so I imagined that if I ever had kids, I would work outside of the home too. Then, I had my first kid and working outside of the home full-time wasn't an option because, quite frankly, we could not afford the cost of childcare. It simply wasn't worth it, so I stayed home and I found that I like it a lot. Now, even though I like it that doesn't mean it doesn't have some ugly parts.


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Here are the 7 worst things about being a stay at home mom:

1. Doors are useless. You may as well get rid of the doors inside your home because they are for privacy and you will be getting none of that. Get used to pooping with an audience because that's how the toilet rolls now.

2. Everything is a huge ordeal. You need to go to the corner store because you ran out of something. Good luck with that, it's going to take you like two hours just to get out of the house because you've got to get your kid ready, put them in a stroller, strap them in, make sure they are warm enough, then right before you are about to leave, they are going to have a massive poop that comes out the back of their diaper and now you've got to give them a bath and start all over.

3. You never get to eat a real meal. You will eat scraps of whatever you can find because when your kids are young, they aren't really into you taking sit down meal breaks, that doesn't work for them.

4. You will forget to get dressed. You wake up with every intention of getting out of your pajamas, but one diaper leads to another and before you know it it's bedtime and why bother changing into a fresh pair of pajamas at the point?

5. You live for naps. You look forward to your child's naps because for a few precious moments, you can think. Like really think about anything you like.

6. Delivery people are your best friends. You order things online because it is easier than going to the store, but it doesn't hurt that when the package gets delivered you get to talk to another adult for a whole 30 seconds. You try not to act too excited.

7. Your baby daddy doesn't get it. If you have a partner who works outside the home, you eagerly await their return so that you can hand the child off for the first time ALL day, then when he gets home he has the nerve to say, "Hold up a minute, I just got home from work. Let me relax for a second." You will want to rip his tongue out of his mouth and make him swallow it because you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that going to work outside of the home is infinitely more relaxing than staying home with your child all day.

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Topics: parenting  humor  stay at home mom


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on Jun 24, 2014 at 5:03 AM
Wow. Your kid must be a real burden on you to.go out of your way to demonize motherhood. Yes it's all dificultades at times but many mom's I know would not trade that for the world. Really, it's all how you look at it, and you seem to be missing the big picture, like when they small at you because you are their world, like when they take their first step, or when they call you momma. All of these things make the others worth while. I'm so sorry if you are a mom because you missed the beauty in motherhood.
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on Jun 24, 2014 at 11:12 AM

@Vee, the post is not called "The totality of being a stay at home mom, it is called "7 Worst things about being a stay at home mom." Meaning I am focusing on the "worst" parts. I am not missing the beauty of motherhood, I am blessed to be able to stay at home with my kids. I also have a sense of humor about the whole thing. Just because a mom complains doesn't mean that she doesn't see the beauty or rewards in what she is doing. Look at the list for crying out loud, they aren't "real" problems, they are inconveniences. It's okay to have a sense of humor about motherhood and it's okay to vent about some of the issues we all go through. The post is not about hating being a stay at home mom, it's about letting other stay at home moms know that I understand what they go through and that this is a safe place to share because heaven forbid a mother ever complain anywhere without having to say, "but of course it's all worth it." No, duh! Yes, we know it's all worth it, do we really always have to put that as a disclaimer before and after every conversation about the parts of being a mother that aren't sheer bliss?

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on Jun 24, 2014 at 12:31 PM
So true!!! I worked for 16 years @ company w 3 kids & know stay home mama w 2 more.. What a roller coaster of a change!! It's tough to be @ home... I missed yeah special moments, but I know I worked to give them the best ... Now with the 2 more kids and @ home ? What a differences, you do 24/7 none stop w no break... Every Life at home is different so you do what works best for everyone.. There's no right or wrong here... At the end of the day wheather ur working (can't wait to come home cuzz you hate work lol) & being at home ? Well when there finally asleep ... Wow me time really 😉 family is what makes you continue your crazy rollercoaster Day by Night .. Amen
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on Jun 24, 2014 at 1:40 PM
Well said! The post was great!! I can agree with every single point. I was a SAHM for three years and I loved it and was overwhelmed by it at the same time. My husband is now a SAHD and I couldn't be more happy that he actually "gets it" now!!
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