According to a recent survey, one out of every three marriages end in divorce mainly due to a of lack of sleep because of a crying baby ... and I completely understand why. If your kids are still young, you probably know why also!

Before having kids, I never would have imagined that I could go so many nights without sleeping well and not die of exhaustion. Even though I have an amazing husband that is an even more incredible father, the truth is that he is a very, very deep sleeper. So much so that I have to remind him when it's his turn to go check on our kids when they cry. Our exhaustion has been the cause of more than one fight between us.

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I'll never forget when our daughter, our first baby, was a newborn and she still slept in a cradle in our room, next to our bed. My husband used to sleep so soundly that many times, he did'n'e even realize how many times the baby woke up during the night. During that time, he used to work outside of the house and I used to feel so bad waking him up to take care of his daughter. But what drove me crazy was that when he woke up after a particularly bad night, and even when he saw the major under-eye circles I was sporting, with a straight face he'd tell me: "Wow, Vanessa slept really well last night, right?" I literally wanted to choke him then!

The survey of 2,000 parents was conducted in England and I'm sure that many moms can completely relate to the results. For example, 11 percent of the parents admit to faking sleep when the baby wakes up crying so that their spouse would tend to the crying little one. Honestly, this number seems really low, because I'm sure there are many, many couples that do this. I say it because both my husband and I are guilty of faking sleep countless times--and I think it's totally normal when you're tired.

All this shows that although having kids is the best thing that could have happened to me, raising them is one of the most difficult things that I've ever done. If your marriage is strong and stable before having kids, it's more than likely that it will survive the baby stage, so don't fear!

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Roxana A. Soto is Features Editor for MamásLatinas. She's a bilingual and bicultural journalist born in Peru and raised in Mexico, Argentina, South Africa and Miami. She's also mom to a girl in 3rd grade and a boy in Kinder. She loves books, languages, traveling and good food – especially when cooked by someone else.

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Rosaidam
Kids are a handful and will test any relationship but it takes work to make things work out.
glamo...

Yep I agree.. happened to me

Jeann...

I agree with the first poster! It takes WORK to still make sure you have time with your spouse!

Kgmmw
Yep you both have to work on it to make it work.
karla...

Children definitely changes lives and relationships but there is always a way around it if you want to make the effort. My ex barely helped with our son but that wasn't the reason for our breakup.

Mamis...

This survey shares a sad reality: that a child that two adults make can be what also separates them. I feel it takes commitment and compromise from both parents. Having a child definitely changes things but when husband and wife work together it can strengthen the relationship.

 

angie007

Yea I agree both have to work together to make a it make work

JCTVCBN

 

I think the percent is probably higher.

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