What would you do if you caught your MIL breastfeeding your baby?

Just the thought of it makes me want to barf. Imagine thinking that your mother-in-law-- who's supposed to be staying with you to help take care of your newborn baby--is rocking her grandson to sleep only to walk into the room and see her suckling your son on her breast! That's exactly what happened to a woman who asked for guidance during a live chat with Emily Yoffe, the writer behind Slate's  "Dear Prudence" column. 

The woman says she was livid (I would've been, too!) and wanted to know if she should call the police and if her MIL should be allowed near her baby son ever again. 


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While I think what the mother-in-law did is absolutely disgusting, I don't think it merits calling the police. Nor do I think that barring her from seeing her own grandson is the solution. But what is?

I can't even begin to imagine how I would've reacted if this had happened with my own MIL. When I had my first child, she basically moved-in with us to help us deal with all the changes coming our way. While she pretty much left the baby care to me and did the cooking and cleaning herself, she obviously still got to spend a lot of time with her granddaughter. It never ever occured to me that she would do something crazy like letting Vanessa suckle her breast... yuck!

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If I had found her doing that, I would've gone crazy and I would've told her she had to leave. I'm not sure how long it would take for me to be able to see her face-to-face again. I guess both the woman and her husband in this mortifying story need to talk to the MIL to make sure she understand this is unacceptable behavior, but I honestly would have a really hard time trusting her to be alone with the baby again. 

What would you do if you catch your MIL breastfeeding your baby? Share your thoughts with us by leaving us a comment below. 

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Topics: breast feeding  child rearing  grandparents


on Jul 12, 2012 at 2:53 PM

Definitely gross. I wouldn't call the police either, but I'd call her out on it and let my husband know.

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on Jul 12, 2012 at 9:19 PM
Ay Dios Mio! I'm not sure whether to laugh, scream, or cry! Roxana, Mil gracias for sharing this!
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on Jul 13, 2012 at 4:41 AM

um she isnt producing milk right? she just doing it to do it? that sound more like she is trying to get pleasure from it, thats sounds more like sexual abuse to me! and i would beat the f out of my mother in law or mother for that matter! 

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on Jul 13, 2012 at 5:08 PM

OMG I don't know! why in earth her MIL was breastfeeding the baby? like mamiof3bambinos said, she doesn't produce any milk, so why bother!!! I'd be crazy as hell!!! I'd be screaming and yelling at her and maybe crying... gross

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on Jul 21, 2012 at 4:28 PM
Get off it--that was common in the past and still is in less sex-obsessed societies. A breast is the PERFECT pacifier. Mom-in-law knew it, and you should too. Prickly moms need to lighten up. Do you think a fake plastic thing could be as soothing or nurturing to an infant as a nipple? What a fortunate baby to have a wise and natural MIL.
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