Does a 10-year-old need to know about oral sex? (VIDEO)

I'm truly not looking forward to the day I have to start talking to my children about sex. My mom never really talked to me about it and so I ended up learning some things on my own, others from my older sister and the rest came with time. I, by no means, want that to be the case with my children. But I truly have no idea how I'm going to do it. 

Nor do I really know what's the perfect age to start talking to them and how much I'm supposed to tell them. So I can see why some parents in Washington state were not happy when their 10 and 11-year-old children were taught about both anal and oral sex. 


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The parents say there was no need for their 5th grade children to get the graphic sex-ed lessons. The state mandates that fifth graders be taught about sexually transmitted diseases, but the parents are outraged at the level of detail used by the principal. In her defense, though, she was just answering questions she got about oral and anal sex. What was she supposed to do? 

Like in other school districts around the country, parents in the small town of Onalaska in Washington state get a notice about the sex education curriculum--which begins in 4th grade--beforehand and they can always opt out. I'm not really sure when my daughter's school will begin doing that, but you can bet I'll be all over that curriculum. While I don't think I'll end up opting out, I think that even though I've no idea how I'll do it, I much rather talk to my own daughter about the topics that will be covered and what she's taught in school can be a plus. 

Even so, I'm really not looking forward to it, but I guess I'll have to get over it because I would much rather she learn about the birds and the bess from me than from her friends. 

Any advice on when I should start talking to my children about sex and how to do it? Please share by leaving a comment.

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on Jun 18, 2012 at 3:51 PM

I have a 14 year old son and an 8 year old daughter and the topic of sex is one I've broached according to their age and ability to understand.  First off I have always made sure that they know the correct anatomical names for female/male genitalia. Second these are their private parts and never let anyone touch them and if so to let me or an adult know immediatley.

As they've gotten older the questions have come along, my son asked me about oral sex in the 2nd grade and I answered, believe me this was difficult but he'd heard it at school and I didn't want to leave it to chance.  

My daughter at her last wellness check up her doctor suggested I have a talk with her because girls are menstruating much younger; so I did.  I think It has to be a gradual conversation.  When you don't address these issues you run the risk that your children will learn it on the playground at school.  I'm considering taking a teen sex education course with my son at the local clinic. I do NOT want him to have sex, but if and when he does there is a lot that remains a mystery to him and I want him to be clear.  There is no room for error and I want my children to know that my door is always open.  I read somewhere a while back that kids who are openly communicating with their parents about sex tend to wait longer to have sex - HERE'S HOPING.

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on Jun 21, 2012 at 8:27 AM

If they had actually said what the principal had told the children then I would be more offended. Honestly though if the kids asked and if she answered them appropriately then I don't see an issue with it. Now if she got super graphic then that is a whole different story.

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