I live a double life, and sometimes the two don´t mix well
Black sweatpants, black t-shirt, sneakers, hair up in a bun, dark glasses, zero make-up. That was me over the weekend, fidgeting silently in a corner, trying to make myself invisible as I watched my daughter play a state tennis competition.
On weekends, I’m all about tennis. Tennis moms can’t be too flashy, too enthusiastic or too loud; other tennis moms don’t like that and your kids don’t like it either.
Life as a juggling mom with a full career is not easy!
“Mami, cállate!” my daughter hissed when I shouted a particularly loud ¨¡Vamos!” That took the wind out of my sails, and chastened, I resorted to pumping my fist silently.
But two days later, it was a whole other story as I got ready to be interviewed on an MTV-produced special on Colombian rocker Juanes. “The backdrop is black and grey,” the producer emailed me, “so don’t wear anything in those colors.”
“Well, yay,” I thought, thinking about my black-clad weekend. Most importantly, I asked,
“Is there hair and make-up?”
There’s a BIG difference between going to these things “camera-ready”—meaning you did your own hair and make-up, or having a stylist on set. MTV had a stylist. Her name was Teresa. She applied my foundation with an air-brush that erased all pores from my skin. She pasted fake eyelashes (love those!) and she curled my hair, vs. blowing it out.
“It will look cute,” she assured me. I loved it. And, for an entire hour I TALKED, un-hushed. I sat in my chair —great lighting, my purple top contrasting beautifully against that gray backdrop— and answered questions. By day’s-end the foundation was off and I was back in my sweat pants, but my eyelashes and hair were still in place.
“Estás linda, mami.” My daughter complimented me when she got home that evening.
Sometimes, you can have it both ways.
What do you find most challenging about juggling your life as a mom an your life at work?