A few years ago one of my clients announced that she was quitting her job to help her daughter prepare for college. I was shocked by her decision. Why would she stop working now after going through, what I imagined, were some of the most challenging years as a parent? Now I know!
The college preparation process is definitely one of the most stressful experiences I have endured as a parent. My daughter is currently a freshman at a prestigious university in Boston. She decided to go there because when she was accepted she was awarded a full-tuition scholarship! Now that I've gone through the process and know what to expect I believe that my experience with my son (a sophomore in high school) will be much less taxing. So I felt compelled to share some of my learnings with those of you with kids who are in middle school because the process to "stand out" starts the first year in high school.Continue Reading >
As a mom of two teens, I am fascinated by the case in the news about Rachel Canning, the 18-year-old student who is suing her family for financial support, after she says she was "forced out" from her home because she didn't want to obey her parents' rules. The case is receiving international media attention and I can totally understand why. I am sure that every mom who has raised teenagers can relate! Canning, a senior at a private Catholic high school in Denville, New Jersey, reminds me of my own daughter and so many other "typical" suburban teens.
The time has come for a new generation of mamás Latinas to let go and to be the first to send our babies off to college. We hope to have played an instrumental role in helping create the character and to instill the values and moral foundation that our daughters need to continue to make the right choices and to succeed. As a Latina who straddles two cultures that at times seem to collide, raising a daughter in America hasn't always been easy. It's been hard to strike the perfect balance of my two cultures and between my career aspirations and being a mom.
Seriously, I am already starting to hyperventilate when I think about my daughter leaving for college at the end of this month. I've already experienced a few mini breakdowns. But there are six things that I won't miss about dealing with a teenage girl at home:
Teens seem to come up with more and more stupid things to do all the time. The latest craze is called NekNomination, a drinking game that originated in Australia and it has spread like wildfire thanks to social media. In essence, teens are given a crazy drinking dare and once they complete it they get to nominate someone else.
Like Kieren Hunter, whose dare involved filming himself downing what could have been a fatal combination of whisky, vodka, rum, Southern Comfort and sherry. His mom found him passed out with vomit all over himself and thought he was dead.
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Back in August, we told you about the very sad case of Linda Perez, a then 18-year-old teen mom who'd been left in a coma after a breast augmentation surgery went wrong. In October, Perez woke up from her coma and today, she's back home with her parents--but she looks nothing like she used to be before this nightmare began.Continue Reading >
A 16-year-old Denver student is in critical condition after setting himself on fire and suffering burns over 80 percent of his body. The teen, whose identity has not been released, walked into his school's cafeteria Monday around 7:15 a.m., doused himself with oil and set himself on fire in front of between 60 and 70 other students who were in there at the time. Luckily, nobody else was injured as the boy tried to commit suicide.Continue Reading >
My gringo husband, my children and I have been in Chile for the last two weeks visiting my family. My daughter Carolina, who is 18, has been doing wonderfully here. When I've asked her about the main differences between teens' lives here in Chile when compared to the United States she has said, "I love how everyone here greets you with hugs and kisses. Even when you meet a person for the first time she hugs and kisses on the cheek."
Every year, as part of my routine annual physical, I get a flu shot. But after reading about what happened to 19-year-old Chandler Webb, I may have to reconsider. You see, Chandler got a flu shot too and then he got so sick that he was rushed to a Salt Lake City, Utah hospital where he spent a month in a coma before his mother decided to take him off life support last week. His official cause of death was swelling of the brain, which his mother, Lori Webb, is convinced was caused by the flu shot.
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As Thanksgiving nears one family is desperately seeking their missing autistic son. The boy, 19-year-old Michael Karwan, went missing a week ago from his Marlboro, New Jersey home. Karwan was last seen getting on a bus near Monmouth County and has reportedly been spotted in New York City.
Police are asking residents to keep an eye out for the teen as they search locations they believe he is bound to visit.Continue Reading >