Is kissing cheating?
Last week, the Internet almost exploded. No, I don't mean literally, so just relax--but when the photographic evidence of Twilight sweetheart Kristen Stewart's illicit affair with her MUCH older Snow White & the Huntsman director Rupert Sanders hit the web, it was sort of insane how much coverage was generated in such a short time.
We at Mamás Latinas are even a little guilty of totally losing our minds a bit. Come on, has there been a celebrity scandal this juicy in a while? Answer: NO WAY! But as the dust settles, Robert Pattinson is packing his bags and moving out of his love nest with Stewart (GO ROB! Run fast and far) and I'm sitting here wondering: Is kissing really cheating?
Read more ¿Qué más? Husband says wife stabbed him over Facebook post
Don't get me wrong. There is no denying that she was deceitful and sneaky and totally 100 percent disrespectful of the sacrament of marriage, as was her gross partner in crime Sanders.
HOWEVAH--I have to say, we have no way of knowing if their affair ever really went any further than a fervent middle school style hookup. I mean, sure, they were definitely making out something serious, but we have no way of knowing if they ever went "all the way." Does it sound like I'm 13? Because it sure felt like it writing that sentence!
Here's my two cents on the whole cheating thing. I've witnessed marriages that have lasted decades without even a flicker of distrust and I've seen partnerships that have lasted for years where one person in the relationship is a serial cheater. I've known both women and men who are unapologetic cheaters and would never change their way, and I know tons of people who are incredibly loyal and would never, ever betray a loved one even if they were miserable in their relationship.
I have to say, from all these observations, that once you've crossed a line, you feel a thrill. The satisfaction is even greater if you happen to get away with your tawdry little act. So, to those who think: "A one time indiscretion can be forgiven," I respond: "How much longer do you plan on being married?"
The thing is, we are human. Unless we are forced to deal with the consequences of our actions, what reason do we have to change them? If something feels really good--like illicit sexual affairs tend to feel--why would we stop that activity unless someone gives us a really, really good reason to? ESPECIALLY if you've gotten away with it?
Kissing is just the first step. So is sexting, IM flirting, sexy Skyping--whatever. It's all just leading you down the path of lying and deceit with your significant other. If it's not checked, believe me chicas, it WILL lead to something else eventually. It's just in our nature. There is no such thing as harmless flirting once it crosses the line of wanting to hide it from your spouse. If there is nothing to hide, then why lie?
So, to those who think kissing isn't cheating I guess all I have to say is: Boy, I'm glad I'm not married to you!
What do you think? Is kissing cheating? Where do you draw the line?