If my abuelita would have heard me saying that I don't believe masturbation is a bad thing, that I believe homosexual unions aren't bad either and that I don't see anything wrong with divorce, for sure she would have sent me to wash my mouth out with soap and drag me to church to confess. And now that times have changed and society has opened up a little more on these topics, I wonder if her perception of these "unmentionables" within the Catholic Church would have changed if she had read the book of Sister Margaret A. Farley, an American nun who has gotten in tremendous trouble with the Vatican, after having written a book about Christian sexual ethics, which addresses precisely these controversial issues, criticizing the Church's position regarding them, as reported by the news agency EFE.

Supposedly, in the book Just Love: a Framework for Christian Sexual Ethics Farley argues that "women have found a great well-being with the auto pleasure –especially, perhaps, in the discovery of their own possibilities for pleasure­– something many haven't experienced or don't even know about it in their regular sexual relations with their husbands or lovers".

And to add fuel to the fire, she said that gay relationships "can be justified in accord to the same sexual ethics of heterosexual's relationships and acts" and that divorce is unfortunate but sometimes necessary.

You can imagine how the Vatican's complaints of outrage went up to the heavens! As it was expected, the Roman Catholic Church criticized Sister Margaret's work– who, by the way, is a Yale professor– saying that her position "is not acceptable" and that "her erroneous propositions could cause serious damage to the faithful" since divorce, for example, is "against God's laws".

The truth is it bothers me that the Church still wants to convince the faithful that these kinds of issues are a threat against people's ethics. What is supposed to be done then… if a woman is being abused by her husband every day? She can't divorce him because it would be going against God? Honestly, I don't think God would want a woman to be a victim of domestic abuse. So, it is time for the Church to stop pushing these kind of ideas to the believers.

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About the author

Sandra Ortiz Juarez graduated with a Bachelors of Arts in Communications from the University of the Americas Puebla (UDLAP) in Mexico. Sandra received her Masters in Broadcast Journalism from the Escuela Superior de Imagen y Sonido (CES) in Madrid, Spain. She has collaborated with various media outlets including TV AZTECA (Mexico), Libertad Digital Television (Madrid, Spain), AOL Latino (New York) and she is now working with Mamás Latinas in their New York office.

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SEA0701

I AGREE!! I think that now a day WE as women should not have to put up with BS that if you leave your husband its against Gods Law. As far as sexuality  and gay marriage goes, I don't think that's right yeah we should all have the same rights but to me a church wedding should be of a MAN and A WOMAN ONLY...But that's just how i feel!

Jeann...

The church really is OLD FASHIONED! This nun did something extremlly brave!!!! I commend her for writing this book even though it went against everything she was taught to believe. 

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