1. Figure out exactly WHY you want to talk dirty. 1
The first thing to note is that you want to start talking dirty because YOU want to and not because you feel pressured by society, pop culture or your partner. Make sure that you are actually comfortable with going down this road before actually exploring dirty talk.
2. Feel out your partner first with a dirty text. 2
You might be shy about bringing up dirty talk with your partner, so a good way to try it first is through texting. It's easy because you can gauge his reaction without actually looking him in the eyes and saying something dirty, which can feel awkward or silly at first if you're not used to it.
3. Make sure your hubby knows what pleases you. 3
Before you venture into dirty talk, you'll want to make sure that your partner knows what pleases and doesn't please you in bed. And vice versa. The reason this is important is that you want to avoid either of you saying something that, well, turns you (or him) off.
5. Definitely set the mood and RELAX. 5
Once you're ready to graduate to slightly dirtier talk, it's okay to be shy. One way to combat this is to start by setting the mood. Have a romantic evening, light some candles, maybe even take a bath together. Do whatever you need to do in order to relax and be able to say some of the dirtier things on your mind. Yes, we mean out loud!
6. Take it to the next level by expanding on what you're enjoying. 6
After you've covered the "this feels good" type stuff, start by going into what feels good and getting specific. Tell him how much you love it when he bites your nipples a little bit, reveal that it's fun when he turns you over into THAT position, or any other little details that you've been dying to share.
7. Don't just say what you think he wants to hear. 7
One of the biggest mistakes you can make when doing dirty talk with your sweetie is by saying only what you think he wants to hear. This will get really boring, really fast. And trust us, he will likely be able to tell if you're saying things that he wants to hear but not really meaning them.
8. Practice in front of the mirror to get the hang of things. 8
If you're still feeling shy or not sure what you want to say (and what you don't want to say), it's totally okay to practice. After all, practice makes perfect, doesn't it? Take some time to practice in front of the mirror while your hubby isn't around to figure out what feels natural to you.
9. Try lowering your voice to create a sexier effect. 9
Another trick to doing dirty talk just right is to lower your voice a little bit. This is something else that you might want to practice in front of the mirror first, but it'll be well worth it when your man hears your sexy growl. It's not at all a bad idea to try to spice things up in this way too, right?