Wouldn't it be fantastic if everyone had a great relationship with their mother-in-law? You don't have to answer because of course the answer is--¡sí! Unfortunately, that is not the case for many, which is why we thought we'd put together a little list of tips for how to get along better with your suegra

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Stop trying to change her. 1

Stop trying to change her.

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Accept that some things about her are never going to change. 

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Let your smile be your secret weapon. 2

Let your smile be your secret weapon.

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It's very hard to be mean or unkind to someone who is flashing you a gorgeous smile. Smile often when you are around your mother-in-law. 

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Go on a date with her. 3

Go on a date with her.

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Do something fun and unexpected like getting professional photos taken of just you and her. She'll feel flattered and your children will treasure the photos later in life. 

Be polite to your suegra even if you find it hard to be. 4

Be polite to your suegra even if you find it hard to be.

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It keeps things civil and it's a great way for your kids to see the manners you are trying to teach them in action. 

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Give her space and back off a bit. 5

Give her space and back off a bit.

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Let her hang out with your husband or your kids without you always hovering around. That way she never feels like she has to compete for attention. 

Don't forget to focus on the positive and be grateful. 6

Don't forget to focus on the positive and be grateful.

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You are doing everyone in your family a disservice if all you notice are your suegra's flaws. She has to have some good qualities that you can focus on. Does she love your kids? Does she provide childcare sometimes? Whatever she does that's good, notice and go on and thank her for it. 

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Remember that respect goes both ways. 7

Remember that respect goes both ways.

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How can you expect the woman to respect you if you are constantly rolling your eyes at her, talking down to her or ignoring her? Treat her the way you want to be treated. 

Make her feel welcome and wanted. 8

Make her feel welcome and wanted.

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Drop the lukewarm greetings. Hug the woman that raised the person you fell in love with and make her feel welcome and wanted. 

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Don't be passive aggressive. 9

Don't be passive aggressive.

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Do not use snide comments to try and let your mother-in-law know that she is crossing the line or hurting your feelings. You are a grown woman, talk to her directly and like a grown up. You may be surprised by her reaction. 

Don't complain about your spouse to her 10

Don't complain about your spouse to her

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Even if you have no one else to vent to, do not complain about your husband to your mother-in-law. Don't complain about him in her earshot even. That just puts her in an awkward situation and invites meddling.