It's all about the kids 1
Yes, your kids are important and they should be a major focus, but the two of you as a couple need to be a part of the picture too.
Solution: Stay interested in each other 2
Touch base daily and talk about things other than the kids. Remember that before the kids it was just the two of you and the kids won't be kids forever so don't grow apart.
You can't remember the last time you had sex 3
If there was a time when you couldn't keep your hands off of each other and now you rarely or never get intimate, that's not a good thing.
You never spend time alone 5
It's hard to get time alone what with the kids, work and so many other things, but you both need some quality alone time to keep the spark going.
Solution: Date night 6
Date night doesn't have to cost a bundle or require a lot of time or even take place at night. If all you have is 30 minutes to spend alone, then go for it. You can grab a cafecito and go for a walk. Talk about things that have nothing to do with the kids. Just enjoy each other's company.
You don't trust each other 7
Do you find yourself snooping through his phone? Does he do the same to you? Spying on someone is not cool and is a sign that you have some issues to work out. Trust is a must in a good relationship.
Solution: Find a way to trust each other 8
If you can't talk through the issues yourself and find a way to trust each other it may be time to see a therapist together to help you out. There is nothing wrong with seeking help from a professional.
You fight to win 9
Do you fight fair or do you call each other names and pull out all the punches so you can win? It's nice to be right, but it's better to find common ground.
You're all about the daily grind 11
Daily survival can really take a toll on a relationship if that's all you focus on.
Solution: Dream about the future together 12
Never stop planning your future together. Dream together, make plans together even if some of those dreamy plans seem impossible right now.