Phillip Toledano wrote a book called The Reluctant Father. In it he admits to having felt "confusion at the lack of love" he felt for his daughter when she was first born. I haven't read the book that Toledano wrote, but I want to thank him for writing it because I know what he is talking about. I felt that lack of love when I gave birth to my first child and I know I'm not the only mother who has ever felt or will feel that way. Now, it is one thing for a man to admit to not falling head over heels in love with his child immediately, but for a mother to do so is unthinkable to many. Do you think I'm awful because I wasn't overwhelmed with love the second I laid eyes on my first daughter or do you understand and get where I am coming from? Before you judge me as a cold-hearted poor excuse for a mother, let me tell you what I felt when I met my firstborn for the first time.
My children are blessed and I truly hope that yours are too. My children have a home, clothes and food. Their essentials are covered and I am beyond grateful because I know that many kids are not so lucky. Many kids have a shameful secret that they keep and take with them to school every day. It is the kind of secret that keeps them from being the best that they can be from achieving all they can achieve. It's shameful not because of anything the children have done, it's shameful because in the United States of America, no child should have to keep this secret. What's the secret?
Hattie Garlick, a British mom and blogger, has surprised many with her "minimalist mom" approach to parenting. Right before Christmas of 2012, she lost her job. She and her husband Tom, a carpenter and musician, decided to stop spending money on any kid-related items for 2013 (barring any necessities like medical care). At the time they had a toddler, Johnny, but a coulple of month's later they found out that Hattie was pregnant. Instead of giving up on their kid-related spending freeze, they decided to keep at it. Guess what? It went so well, that they are going to keep doing it through 2014, with a few monthly exceptions.
We are so bombarded with the notion that we have to get our kids all kinds of gear that this no spending approach may seem impossible, but it's not. Some parents don't call it minimalism, they call it necessity. I can attest to that and I can also give you tips on how not to spend money on your baby or toddler.
Before the cell phone and cordless phone days, some of you may recall the rotary phone. It was your abuela's first form of technology that allowed her to communicate with her friends and family, but now is obsolete.The truth is if you were to place one in front of most young people today, they would be clueless about its overall function.
That's why when I saw this video of kids reacting to rotary phones, I was on the floor laughing!
Kids are awesome for a whole bunch of reasons, but one of my favorites is that they help bring out the kid in parents. I was watching a video of a father in Dallas, Texas who strung three laundry baskets together and turned them into a multiple passenger snow sled. I'm thinking that came about because it doesn't snow often in Dallas and that father used his imagination and what he had on hand at home to take advantage of a very rare situation and a wonderful opportunity to play with his kids. I smiled as I watched the video because I just love how as parents we are inspired by our kids to turn everyday household items into toys for our kids and how much fun are kids end up having with them.
At 4 years old, Raven Kaliana started earning money to support her family. What could a 4-year-old possibly do to make money? The unthinkable. Her parents willingly sold her into the sex industry. For 15 years, Kaliana endured commercial sexual abuse and made money for her family via child pornography. Her story is astounding, upsetting and inspiring. Somehow she survived the abuse and now as an adult she is driven by the belief that survivors of child sexual exploitation need to tell their story. To that end, she has created an autobiographical play in which children are represented by puppets, called Horray for Hollywood. The play has received critical acclaim, toured various countries and has been made into a film. She says that when she does Q&A sessions after the screening of her film, people often ask, "How could parents do this to their children?" Her answer might surprise you.
Last November, Nicole Mcvey, a teacher at Oaktree Elementary in Michigan was teaching her 5th grade class when one of her 11-year-old students, who happens to have autism, got his body stuck head first in a chair. Sounds hard to do, but as you can see, not impossible for a young child with or without autism. Oh yeah, because I almost forgot to tell you that naturally what the teacher did when the student got stuck was whip out her cellphone, video tape the kid stuck in the chair and ask him if he wanted to get tasered. Wait, what?! Oh and it's like a 10 minute video. Why would anyone be recording for 10 minutes instead of trying to get the kid out? Oh maybe to pass that video around to fellow staff and friends afterwards. Oh yeah, there's more.Continue Reading >
This is the extraordinary tale of a little girl who was born a boy and the extraordinary mother who believed that child when the child said that God made a mistake. I saw this story on Primer Impacto and let me say it has made a huge impact on me. To protect the identity of both mother and child, they have been identified simply as Norma, the mother, and Dulce, the child. From a very young age Dulce, who at the time had a boy's name, identified as a girl. Even as a 2-year-old toddler she would wrap towels around her head to simulate long hair. When she was old enough to speak, Dulce would tell her mother that she was a girl. Norma, of course, would correct her son and explain that he was a boy, but that wasn't the end of it, not by a long shot.Continue Reading >
An Amber Alert has been issued for a 15-year-old Latina in Texas. The girl, Nomei Velazquez who also goes by the name of "Mimi" was last seen in the town of Lenexa. The alert was sent on Tuesday evening after the Texas teen went missing and never returned home from school on Monday.
Police have a suspect in mind and are asking the public to also look out for Juan Fabian Arenas Delacruz. If you think you may have leads regarding this case, please keep reading.Continue Reading >
You know how much I read up on baby sleep when I was pregnant? Absolutely nothing. A friend asked my husband if we had a sleep philosophy we planned to use, and I honestly thought she was nuts. Why would I be thinking about how my kid would sleep when he wasn't even born yet? Wouldn't he just sleep when he was tired? Yeah, I learned the hard way that that's not how it works.Continue Reading >