Selena Gomez does not take bulling well.

On Saturday, the "Come and Get It" singer took a Instagram user @official.kerry to task for posting a message on Gomez's Instagram profile wishing the singer would "burn in hell with cancer." 


In the caption for her post, the notoriously private singer explained why she felt the need to respond to such a heinous act of internet bullying. "Honestly, I don't speak up much because it's simply *always* taken out of context," explained Gomez. "But I don't take bullying well. I have seen too much to not say anything."

"The comment you left about cancer was absurd," wrote Gomez. "How distasteful of a young woman. I have gone through that battle with fans and family members. You can dislike someone but to wish something that could happen to you or your family is uncalled for sweetheart. You won't be winning anyone's heart that way. Trust me. Educate yourself a tad more. God bless love. Be an amazing woman. You're beautiful."

In the days since, "official.kerry's" account has officially been deactivated, and more than 481,000 people have "liked" Gomez's hater-bashing post—including me. In my opinion, Gomez handled her troll with dignity and class—two traits that are in rare supply both on Instagram and in Hollywood. She didn't have to respond to her hater, much less compliment her, but the pop star opted to do both. I don't usually put celebs on a pedestal, but I can appreciate the impact Gomez's message will have on her young fans, many of whom deal with online and offline bullies on a daily basis. I hope that if they take anything away from Gomez's response, it's that you don't have to stoop down to your bullies level to defeat them. I hope they too will rise above the hate.  

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Do not react

Most bullies are just looking to get a rise out of you. Don't give them what they want. If you're dealing with an internet troll or bully, block them from your newsfeed, report them to a site administrator, or simply avoid reading their comments. 


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You can acknowledge their opinion, but...

That doesn't mean you have to agree with it. Simply thank them for sharing and move on. If a troll continues to pester you, you can remind  them that you've moved on from the conversation. And if they still continue to harass you, ignore them. 





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Document everything

If a troll or bully sends you a threatening message, do not engage. Instead, take a screenshot of the message in quesiton and present it to site administrators, employers, or even police.

As a rule of thumb: take every threat seriously. 

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Remember: It's not personal

I don't care how much you tweet, Facebook or Instagram about yourself, most of your followers will never really know the real you. That being said, don't let what someone says about you (based on your online presense) affect the way you see yourself. Besides, bullies reveal a lot more about themselves than their targets when they insult perfect strangers online.