Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

Dad dies leaving behind a boxful of letters for his baby girl

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What parent hasn't considered what they would do if they suddenly found out that they were dying? All the things we would miss. All those important moments in life that we wouldn't be present for our children, the moments that they needed us the most. We'd miss seeing them grow up and they would miss having us there to give them advice, support and love and that is the true tragedy of it all. What could you do?

Recently, a 26-year-old husband and father, Mitchell Whisenhunt, lost his battle with Marfan syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that affects the body's connective tissue, which holds together the body's organs, cells and tissue. But before he died, he found a way to bring continual comfort to his wife, Ashley Whisenhunt, 22, and his beloved daughter, Brynleigh, by writing a trove of letters that he designated to be opened on certain dates throughout her life.

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Depressed mom gives birth to baby hooked on happy pills

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When Susan Barden, from Crawley, West Sussex was pregnant, she began to suffer from crippling pre-natal depression. Before she even knew she was pregnant, she had feelings of severe doom and despair. She was moody, grouchy and unhappy. The depression got so bad that she was having suicidal thoughts by week 11 of the pregnancy and by the third month, her doctor prescribed anti-depressants.

Honestly, I had never heard of pre-natal depression but I know all sorts of unexpected things happen when you're pregnant.  I am much more familiar with post partum depression. It is believed that pre-natal depression is brought on by a combination of fluctuating hormones and the stress of the life changes ahead. Studies suggest it is actually more prevalent than post partum depression, estimating that one in seven women in the United Kingdom suffers depression while pregnant.

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Teacher sends kids to firing squad for chewing gum​

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A Washington state high school chemistry teacher, Kem Petteson, who used a "wheel of misfortune" to punish a sophomore girl for chewing gum by making the girl stand in front of a "koosh firing squad" will continue to be employed by Stevenson High School. You read that right. Ms. Petteson employs a "wheel of misfortune" in her classroom as a way of determining a punishment for students who misbehave.

What would you do if your child's teacher humiliated your child in front of the entire classroom, as a means of teaching the child in question a lesson? Me, I'd be out for blood. That teacher would be feeling the full wrath of my reach, especially when the punishment didn't fit the crime and by the way, an adult humiliating a teen or child in front of their peers is NEVER okay. Not even in the case of these crazy parents who put their kids on the street or Facebook with humiliating sandwich boards with messages of their misdoings. 

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Mom sews her daughter's mouth shut as punishment

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Pennsylvania authorities have arrested a 46-year-old woman, Rana L. Cooper, on a laundry list of charges ranging from accusations of attempting to sew her 16-year-old adoptive daughter's mouth shut to forcing her to eat cat litter, and many other horrific acts. Cooper frequently threatened to cut off the girl's tongue and I'm sure she was capable of doing so, if the mood struck her.

Teenagers are trying. That's a fact. Between hormones, pushing boundaries and knowing everything, basically being 5' tall toddlers, I'm sure every parent has wanted to smack their teen right in the face at least once. The smart mouth repeatedly telling us how stupid we are and the eyes rolling every time we speak in their direction can cause us to consider the option but, obviously, we'd never do that but some parents will do even worse. 

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Why you should NEVER wax your own bikini line!

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In an effort to be sexy and save some money, a reddit contributor, Sloanesteel decided to wax her own vagina. Bad idea, right?

I researched it online and watched videos. I figured if my Puerto Rican high school dropout bikini waxer can do it, then so can I. I took a Xanax and applied the wax and ripped.

And then the unthinkable happened…

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