Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

Parents share their REAL tricks on how to sneak in sex


Sex after having babies is difficult at best. Mostly it turns grown adults into teenagers. We find ourselves sneaking around like we don't pay the mortgage. The little people run the joint. After 9 years of parenthood, the Big Guy and I have become sort of sex ninjas. We co-slept for years, and even then our lovemaking was not put on life support. We simply employed military-like tactics to get the deed done in other parts of the house. They say necessity is the mother of ingenuity and boy, is that true.

But children don't have to kill intimacy, you just have to get creative and use your imagination and the rest of the house. Honestly, I think all the sneaking around has added some spice. Sure, we may not be afforded the luxury of rolling over every night and having missionary sex but don't underestimate the power of playing the ultimate game of hide and seek… from your kids.

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Stroller bans are getting popular & I'm ok with it


Seems restaurants are banning strollers. I'm totally fine with that for a couple of reasons. One, those giant things are cumbersome and take up a lot of space. If you are in a tight space, it makes service without incident almost impossible. Two, if your baby is too little to sit upright in a highchair, most highchairs in restaurants are made to accommodate a car seat, so there really is no reason to haul that giant thing into the restaurant in the first place.

Sure, I loved throwing all of my crap under the stroller as much as the next mom but I never took a stroller into the restaurant because logistically it makes no sense whatsoever. Unless the restaurant is on Disney grounds and everyone is pushing one, which is why everyone leaves them outside.

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Adrian Peterson child abuse scandal: Is it EVER OK to hit kids?


Adrian Peterson is an NFL player who was reinstated to the League even as new allegations of child abuse and photos of his son's injuries are being leaked. It is known that Peterson has hit his son with a switch and was spanked as a child himself. I've had a switch taken to the back of my legs. I've experienced the stinging of treating the welts and slashes, while gently patting away the blood. It hurts, a lot! The question is, is spanking a child ever okay and if so when?

I can only speak for myself, as a child who was spanked (actually as a child who was beaten) and my answer is no. I do not believe in corporal punishment of children for any reason. 

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Dying baby bucket list helps parents through hardest time


A young Pennsylvania couple, Jenna and Dan Haley, were over the moon to find out that they were having a baby boy, Shane. Then they found out that their unborn son, Shane, was diagnosed with a complex neural defect, anencephaly, which kills most infants soon after birth. It causes babies to be born without parts of their brain and skull. Most children who are born with this condition die soon after being born.

I can only imagine how heartbreaking this news must have been to the soon-to-be parents. It had to be one of the most devestating things to ever happen to a parent. They took it better than I ever could have and they made the best out of what can only be described as the worst situation. They chose to love their baby as much and for as long as they could. 

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Could you find your vagina on a diagram?


A recent study in the UK by women's cancer research charity The Eve Appeal revealed that nearly half of the females participating, ages 26-35, could not locate their vagina on a diagram. COULD.NOT.LOCATE.THEIR.VAGINA! Even my 7-year-old can identify her vagina. Her urethra, well, that's another story, but we're working on it.

Older women knew exactly where there vagina was located and 90% of those participants, aged 66 to 79 could identify the womb, while 8 in 10 could correctly label the ovaries. Apparently, the sexual revolution was not wasted on these women, probably because they were coming of age when free love and sexual exploration was at its height.

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