Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

Teacher sends kids to firing squad for chewing gum​


A Washington state high school chemistry teacher, Kem Petteson, who used a "wheel of misfortune" to punish a sophomore girl for chewing gum by making the girl stand in front of a "koosh firing squad" will continue to be employed by Stevenson High School. You read that right. Ms. Petteson employs a "wheel of misfortune" in her classroom as a way of determining a punishment for students who misbehave.

What would you do if your child's teacher humiliated your child in front of the entire classroom, as a means of teaching the child in question a lesson? Me, I'd be out for blood. That teacher would be feeling the full wrath of my reach, especially when the punishment didn't fit the crime and by the way, an adult humiliating a teen or child in front of their peers is NEVER okay. Not even in the case of these crazy parents who put their kids on the street or Facebook with humiliating sandwich boards with messages of their misdoings. 

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Mom sews her daughter's mouth shut as punishment


Pennsylvania authorities have arrested a 46-year-old woman, Rana L. Cooper, on a laundry list of charges ranging from accusations of attempting to sew her 16-year-old adoptive daughter's mouth shut to forcing her to eat cat litter, and many other horrific acts. Cooper frequently threatened to cut off the girl's tongue and I'm sure she was capable of doing so, if the mood struck her.

Teenagers are trying. That's a fact. Between hormones, pushing boundaries and knowing everything, basically being 5' tall toddlers, I'm sure every parent has wanted to smack their teen right in the face at least once. The smart mouth repeatedly telling us how stupid we are and the eyes rolling every time we speak in their direction can cause us to consider the option but, obviously, we'd never do that but some parents will do even worse. 

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Why you should NEVER wax your own bikini line!


In an effort to be sexy and save some money, a reddit contributor, Sloanesteel decided to wax her own vagina. Bad idea, right?

I researched it online and watched videos. I figured if my Puerto Rican high school dropout bikini waxer can do it, then so can I. I took a Xanax and applied the wax and ripped.

And then the unthinkable happened…

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Pastor forced abortions & allowed sexual abuse of kids in congregation


Twenty one former members of Akron's Grace Cathedral church are accusing their leader, televangelist, Ernest W. Angley of running a cult and he denies the whole thing. A self-proclaimed prophet, Angley forcefully encouraged men to get vasectomies and women to have abortions because people shouldn't want to bring children into this evil world. Members now claim he did it because he wanted all of their attention and money. These are people who will never have children. They have been deprived of parenthood.

Several former members are saying that leaders of the church molested them as children and teens and when they told Angley he encouraged them to keep that secret. Child molesters were allowed to run rampant while scared children were reassured that if it became an ongoing thing, he'd make sure it stopped. It never did. These children were stripped of their innocence and no one ever came to their rescue. It was accepted.

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How to perfectly capture your child's birth

Remember that moment that you gave birth? Remember that single moment of simultaneous elation and near death coinciding to produce a miracle? I do. I don't think it's something any of us could ever forget; the moment I became a mother. It is the single most profound moment of our lives and one we always want to remember; to preserve not only in our mind's eye, but on hardcopy.

My daughters were born in 2005 and 2007. With my first birth, we took lots of photos and had some great captures but had no idea what we were doing. My poor husband, it was our first birth and I had him snapping photos and shooting video. He was so busy that he missed out on cutting the baby's umbilical cord. That should've never happened. Every parent should get to enjoy and bask in those first few moments of parenthood, without having to multitask.

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