Deborah Cruz

I'm Deborah, online I'm  @TruthfulMommy. I'm the creator of The TRUTH about Motherhood. I am a writer, a wife, and a work-at-home Mami who's trying to do it all well. I live in the Midwest with my 2 little girls and my husband. I love them more than I thought was possible and my greatest hope is that I raise them well. I have a lot of degrees from a bunch of schools but mostly spend my days shuttling people under the age of 7, while trying to maintain my sanity. I talk a lot. I may not always say what you want to hear but it will always be my honest viewpoint.

I know I'm Latina when...

my inner monologue is in spanglish.

Deborah's Latest Posts

Brittany Maynard may not end her life on November 1st

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Brittany Maynard launched an online video campaign on October 6th with Compassion and Choices. She was fighting for expanding death with dignity laws nationwide and spoke openly about her own choice to end her life with medication prescribed by her doctor, which is legal in some states for certain terminally ill patients. She even moved to Oregon along with her husband, mother and stepfather, specifically so that she could do this. She essentially put an expiration date on her life, November 1, 2014.

This was the date that she had chosen but now she might be second guessing herself. Well, not so much second guessing as playing it day by day which, when you are terminally ill, I think, is the only way to play it. 

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Parents forgive their son's murderer, invite him to live in their home

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To forgive truly is divine and parents of a New Hampshire shooting victim, Donald St. Laurent, not only forgave the man that killed their son but they even volunteered to help him restart his life.

Christopher Bazar was granted parole for the accidental shooting of his best friend, Donald St. Laurent, after serving only three years in prison and that is mostly due to the fact that Donald St. Laurent's parents lobbied on his behalf. Not only did his victim's parents ask for leniency, they are also providing him with a job and a place to stay when he gets out of jail.

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Dad dies leaving behind a boxful of letters for his baby girl

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What parent hasn't considered what they would do if they suddenly found out that they were dying? All the things we would miss. All those important moments in life that we wouldn't be present for our children, the moments that they needed us the most. We'd miss seeing them grow up and they would miss having us there to give them advice, support and love and that is the true tragedy of it all. What could you do?

Recently, a 26-year-old husband and father, Mitchell Whisenhunt, lost his battle with Marfan syndrome, a rare genetic disorder that affects the body's connective tissue, which holds together the body's organs, cells and tissue. But before he died, he found a way to bring continual comfort to his wife, Ashley Whisenhunt, 22, and his beloved daughter, Brynleigh, by writing a trove of letters that he designated to be opened on certain dates throughout her life.

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Depressed mom gives birth to baby hooked on happy pills

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When Susan Barden, from Crawley, West Sussex was pregnant, she began to suffer from crippling pre-natal depression. Before she even knew she was pregnant, she had feelings of severe doom and despair. She was moody, grouchy and unhappy. The depression got so bad that she was having suicidal thoughts by week 11 of the pregnancy and by the third month, her doctor prescribed anti-depressants.

Honestly, I had never heard of pre-natal depression but I know all sorts of unexpected things happen when you're pregnant.  I am much more familiar with post partum depression. It is believed that pre-natal depression is brought on by a combination of fluctuating hormones and the stress of the life changes ahead. Studies suggest it is actually more prevalent than post partum depression, estimating that one in seven women in the United Kingdom suffers depression while pregnant.

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Teacher sends kids to firing squad for chewing gum​

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A Washington state high school chemistry teacher, Kem Petteson, who used a "wheel of misfortune" to punish a sophomore girl for chewing gum by making the girl stand in front of a "koosh firing squad" will continue to be employed by Stevenson High School. You read that right. Ms. Petteson employs a "wheel of misfortune" in her classroom as a way of determining a punishment for students who misbehave.

What would you do if your child's teacher humiliated your child in front of the entire classroom, as a means of teaching the child in question a lesson? Me, I'd be out for blood. That teacher would be feeling the full wrath of my reach, especially when the punishment didn't fit the crime and by the way, an adult humiliating a teen or child in front of their peers is NEVER okay. Not even in the case of these crazy parents who put their kids on the street or Facebook with humiliating sandwich boards with messages of their misdoings. 

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