Lucia Ballas-Traynor

I was born and raised in Chile until I moved to New York when I was 11 years old. My family went back to Chile but I stayed behind after marrying a very supportive Gringo of Irish descent. We have two beautiful children (a boy and a girl, ages 14 and 16 respectively). I am  proud of my Latin culture and roots and work hard at retaining and passing on my heritage and traditions to my kids. I love all types of food, spending time with my familia, music, diversity and constant discovery. I feel fortunate to be able to take the best of my two cultures and create my own!

I know I'm Latina when...

I love, when I celebrate and when I feel pain!

Lucia's Latest Posts

When & how to have the sex talk with your kids

Like many Latinas, I never really got the sex talk from my parents until days before my wedding. Prior to that day, our talk focused solely on abstinence before marriage. We never discussed what sex, or more specifically intercourse, really meant and what acceptable behavior was. There was no discussion around having protected sex to avoid getting pregnant or sexually transmitted diseases. I learned about sex and formed my opinions through friends, health education class in high school and by experimenting with a boyfriend I dated for nearly four years.

In sharp contrast to my experience, I had my first open discussion about sex with my daughter when she was 10 years old. It was inevitable. 

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18 Things Latina moms wish they had instilled In their young kids


I've been blessed with two beautiful kids who have grown into successful young adults. My son is now 17 and my daughter is 19. Although I don't have a lot of regrets as a parent there are some things that I wish I had taught them when they were much younger. Here's a list of things that many of my Latina (and gringa) friends wish that they had taught their kids before the age of 18:

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7 Reasons Latinos are a force to be reckoned with


I feel so fortunate to love what I do for a living. I travel the country educating marketers about Latinos. I recently realized that just because you are Latina, unless you do this for a living, you might not really know just how huge and powerful Latinos are in this country.  Latinos (along with African-Americans, Asians and other multicultural segments) account for 76% of new, U.S. population growth while the "white" population is stagnant or even declining!  So let me share seven of the most important facts you should know about Latinos.

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10 Ways ebola has changed the daily behavior of Latinas


I believe that Latinas have a different perspective from las gringas on the ebola situation.  First, we come from a culture that tends to accentuate (exaggerate) situations like this one. In other words, ¡nos pasamos películas o novelas! Second, most Latinas are deeply influenced by religious messages that Dios is trying to send us. Third, there is a higher probability that Latinas work in hospitality, healthcare, transportation, food and other public sectors that are susceptible to exposure to diseases like ebola. So, I've been "listening" to the conversations that Latinas are having on and Facebook and here's a list of ways that ebola is changing our daily routines.

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Different parenting styles and their impact on our children


There have been many studies on parenting styles and their impact on children.  In the 60s, psychologist Diana Baumrind conducted a study that identified two important parenting factors:  "demandingness" and "responsiveness."  Based on these two aspects, Baumrind came up with three parental styles: authoritarian, permissive (or indulgent) and authoritative. Latinas like me tend to be raised by authoritarian parents while gringas are more likely to be raised by permissive parents.  According to most studies, both extremes have negative effects on children.

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