Sofia Aguilar

I am a mother. I am a wife. I am a friend. I am a blogger. I am a creative mind. I was an ad-woman for the last 19 years of my life. I am Mexican. I am crazy. I am sane. I live in NY. I live in Spanish. I live in English. I love to be with my kids, I love the hour after I put them to bed. I love to write. I love to walk. I love to travel. I love to read. I love witty, sharp and fast. My sanity comes from yoga, writing, good conversations and wine. My kids, Juliana and Diego - are by far -the best idea I've ever had.

I know I'm Latina when...

I get happy with salsa verde and I force my daughter to speak Spanish.

Sofia's Latest Posts

Iowa Rep. Steve King wants to get rid of Spanish in America

I never thought  I would ever be quoting anything President George W. Bush said, but thanks to Rep. Steve King (R-Iowa) and his newest insane and racist bill, I have no choice--I feel compelled to quote the former Republican president:

"The diversity of America has always been a great strength of this country. Here you can be proud of your cultural heritage, proud of your ancestry, proud of your native language, and still be a proud American."

So let me begin this by saying, Rep. King, the fact that you have no shame in publicly declaring that "diversity has never been America's strong suit" makes me not only doubt your position in office, but also your sanity. Are you sure you're an American? Or is it that Iowa is completely blindfolded to the rest of your great country?


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Do modern women really need men?

The other day, my husband and I were having dinner with a group of friends and suddenly the conversation shifted from very humorous to very dark.

One of the women said that she was certain that her husband (who was sitting right next to her) was going to die before her and that she had made plans with other women-friends (who are also certain they will become widows first) to buy a big house in Acapulco, live together, wear kaftans with lots of jewelry, have endless talks during poker games while drinking champagne at night.

I couldn't help but stutter: "Really?! Is that your dream for your old age?"


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Don't let the television set become another parent!

It takes a lot of effort on our part as parents not to succumb into the abyss of the Disney Channel or Nickelodeon when we want our kids off our backs for half an hour.

I have a rule that no television is allowed during daytime hours, but there are weekend mornings when my kids wake up at 6 a.m. and I simply can't move. So instead, I give in, let the kids watch some TV, and head back to bed. Most days, though, I feel so guilty after 20 minutes, I simply decide, to hell with it all--let's just head outside. My friends call me crazy because they can often find me at the diner with my offspring before 8 a.m. on weekends. Immediately after, I head to the park. And guess what? It does beat seeing my kids go numb in front of the TV while the sun shines beautifully outside. But so many of us still give in to making the television set a replacement for strong parenting.

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Si quieren tener más sexo ¡escondan los videojuegos y las laptops!

¿Cuántas de ustedes sufren por tener maridos que pasan ratos larguísimos con los videojuegos o en el internet? Hoy en día, las parejas más jóvenes son las que más sufren por esta causa. En mi trabajo anterior, conocí a varias mujeres con maridos obsesionados con la tecnología, quienes muchas veces se acostaban a dormir -- hasta altas horas de la madrugada -- buscando pasar al siguiente nivel.

Y ellos siempre se defendían así: "Pero mi amor, ¿a ti por qué te molesta que yo me desvele jugando si tú ya estás dormida?"  Pero bueno, ¿qué pasó con el sexo y qué pasó con aquello de dormir juntos en la cama y a la misma hora?


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Men are faking orgasms at an ALARMING rate

There's been tons of talk about women who fake orgasms. They've been highly criticized by "offended men" as much as they've been criticized by women who urge them to stop faking the funk.

But these days, men are becoming as good actors as women. 

According to a recent AskMen poll, men fake orgasms for the same reason that women do; they're tired, they don't feel like it, they don't want to offend their partners. They probably want to avoid a huge fight--which as a women, you have to be honest--would totally happen if your man told you he "just wasn't in the mood".

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